seriously, the second one isnt that bad. The only thing that will drive you crazy is K. I swear O was just driving me nuts the whole time. Im sure it had nothing to do with the lack of sleep and help. I never yell at O and I think I yelled so much at him the first month of L's life. I felt so horrible. The birthing process was a lot easier too, at least for me it was! Mucho love!